Is Being Gay Just a Phase

The Gay Debate

In America the homosexual has been put into a particular category as far as the public is concerned. The public can only judge what they see, hear and read and thanks to the media and some rotten apples within the gay community, homosexuals are often seen in a light that does not represent the entire gay community. Being gay is considered a trend to some but it all depends on the individual at hand. Some people have developed a notion that being gay is a choice so they decided to try it in order to see what it is like. Others are just honestly confused and are truly experimenting with their sexuality. Some others are people who are upset at the fact that the opposite sex is not as attracted to them as they would like so they crossed to the other side to see if they can find that special someone. Lastly, there are those unfortunate few that are influenced to be gay because of their environment and the fact that they were sexually abused when they were younger. According to an article on Mentalhealth.net, “Sigmund Freud wrote that the child, fearful of his father wrath, identifies with his mother and, unconsciously takes his father (or men in general) as the object of their sexual love. Other and more recent writers have discussed sexual abuse in the home or neighborhood at the hands of relatives and or friends and neighbors.” As a child certain behaviors can influence an individual to act or grow a certain way and being abused sexually can have an affect on a child’s psyche. These individuals are turning being gay into a trend because there is nothing inside of them that is naturally pulling them toward being attracted to the same gender.

There has been much research to try and suggest that being a Homosexual is a problem or some type of mental disorder that an individual must seek help for. This is truly nonsense because the one thing that the researchers are missing in these studies are the actual gay people. Most of the studies are just telling the public the facts the scientist have found but most have no input from the gay community or a gay person at all. Of course there are other reports that say a fetus is born gay because of there genetics. This would prove that the sexuality of a person is predetermined. As reported by the Seattle Times, “If science proves homosexuality is innate, is there any basis to deny gays equal treatment — including the right to marry?” Gay people are just that, people, and we need to treat them as such. Let’s put ourselves in their shoes for a minute. What if we were not able to get a job or visit a loved one in the hospital because we were a heterosexual? What if we were not allowed certain rights had the fear of going to school or going into a specific field of work because of the fact that we were heterosexual and we were scared or others judging us because of our sexual orientation? Is that fair at all? NO!!!!! Homosexuals want kids, proper taxes and the right to marry as well and who are we to say that because they sleep with the same gender they do not deserve these basic principles of love in their lives?

Now there are others in the world who knows the truth about being gay. These people will tell you that they do not know why they are attracted to the same sex they have just always been that way. These people would be the actual gay people that the researchers are missing in their studies. Being gay is a lifestyle because this is who this individual is as a person the only difference is that he or she happens to be attracted to the same gender. These people get up in the morning and go to work like you and I and the only difference is that they are sleeping with the same sex instead of the opposite one. It does not shape them as an individual the fact they are gay, in fact, it is only a part of their entire being. Most of them do not fit the stereotypical roles that America has placed homosexuals in at this time either. So should they be punished for existing?

Shows like Will & Grace and certain characters on few other shows that are on public television in prime time, shows gay characters in a positive setting. These shows put gay people in a light where they are actual people living lives but they just happen to be attracted to the same gender. Other shows and movies like Queer as Folk, Noah’s Arc and The Salon are misrepresentations of the gay community as a unit. As long as the media continues to show the negative side of gay culture homosexuals will never get a fair shot of being accepted. Of course there are gay individuals who are materialistic, flamboyant, self- centered and cruel. In saying this, the same can be said about a heterosexual person as well. The point is as a whole the gay community happens to be regular people who attracted to the same gender. This is truly the only difference between a heterosexual person and a homosexual one. Being a homosexual is a part of this person it is who they are and they cannot change it or be fixed as some would suggest. So it is time for the public to accept it and let everyone live their lives and be happy.