Stop the Presses

Ok so I have a serious question you guys that has been filling my mind for the last few days. If someone wants to be with you aren't they suppose to take you as you are? I mean fully love and cherish the person you are no matter what. This person in my mind, is supposed to understand all of your little quirks and at least tolerate them. I mean I do not expect in the least for this person to act fake and try to put up with me if they really don't want to, but if you love me you have to deal with certain things.

So I ask this question because honey I am in a little bit of a pickle *In Karen Walker voice* I am dating this guy which is hard for me in the first place because I am frankly already tired of keeping track of the people I am dating, and I feel he likes me. So you may wonder what is the problem?? It seems he likes me but that he wants to change me. The reason I suspect this is because he is always talking about which "workout" he is going to put me on. There are also other things that he does and says that lead me to believe he is kind of superficial and heavily influenced by appearance. Anyone who knows me has to know this is the fastest way to turn me off. Now it is possible that he thinks he is helping me because I want too work on my stomach, but I don't need a daily reminder of it.

Now, the other part of the story is better but I am afraid just as complicated. So I was in Baltimore over the past week and I saw an old friend and was really caught off guard. He is someone I have dated before and I really loved him at one point. The reason we had to part was because he did not have his shit together. I mean the first night we met he asked me for money. I was nice and gave it to him but in my head I was like really, I just met you. Another reason and probably the biggest why I had to let him go was he was soooo negative. I am a very upbeat person so he was bringing me down. Everytime I would call something was wrong. Anywho, I like him still and he has changed or it at least appears that way.

So we talked *after doing a few other things, insert smile* and he just laid it on thick. He started to share with me how he was so in love with me and the fact that he couldn't lose me again. He also gave me a ring which carried sentimental value to him and told me that he was saving it for someone special and that he wanted me to wear it. I gagged ok!!!!! I am really stuck between the two of them, HELP ME!!!!!

I tell this little story to try and figure out who to choose? Both have pros and cons but the bottom line is one accepts me for who I already am while the other is trying to create something that is not there yet. Don't ever let someone change you unless you are ready or want to be changed because in the end you have the final say.